Find the best way to get a guy to text you first on phone or facebook without texting him. These tips will make it irresistible for the guy and he will contact you quickly.
Texting is fun and easy way to start flirting that could later be transformed into calling and finally dating. To be honest that’s my goal, to get a guy to ask me out. However, to be able to run, first you need to learn how to stand up and that’s what this post is all about. Helping you to start a conversation using textual means and traditionally it’s suppose to be the guy who texts you first.
This is where things get a bit tricky because how can you flirt if the guy hasn’t even sent the first text yet. Sure you could text him first, but that could look desperate. So you can’t text him first and you can’t wait around forever looking for that first text. Instead what you are to do is plan ahead, even before meeting or knowing the guy. And for that particular plan here are some things you could do to make sure to get a guy to text you first on your phone.
Seeming Approachable
This part works best if you meet people in person. The truth is guys are stupid, they want everything spelled out for them and basically that’s why we are here. A guy is more prone to talk to you if you are smiling and appear confident than a when you are not making eye contact and is staring down at the floor. The difference between the two is one makes you appear more approachable, someone who is fun to talk to, while the other makes you appear unapproachable. And remember you always have to seem approachable to get a guy to text you first quickly.
Eye Contact and Smile
When you see a guy and he sees you, the first thing to take place is the eye contact. That is what sets the whole thing in motion. So, if you want the guy to approach you, then you need to leave some inviting signs otherwise he will just start looking for someone else. Making eye contact is one of the ways to show him that you are interested. The best way to do this is to maintain eye contact with the guy for 5 to 10 seconds and then look away with a sly smile. Repeat this process a couple of time so the guy knows that you are interested.
Be Confident
Everything can be achieved with confidence except for failure. If you want to get a guy to text you first and chase you then you need to act like the cool cat and for that confidence is extremely important. I know you have heard this phrase before, but it’s so important that I have to mention it here again and again. If you are a confident person then that’s great, but if you are not then you need to work on it.
Some of the things I used to do to appear confident is go out with friends, know my surroundings and fake confidence. By doing this I realized that becoming more and more confident each time I did something I wouldn’t normally. So try doing something that you are scared of and soon you will be a confident person too. Until then just fake it till you make it.
Engage with his Friends
This step is more like when you know the guy or it’s a group hangout kind setting. I know that jealousy is a bad thing, but sometimes it’s a useful tool. Making him a little jealous by engaging with his friends in a playful way just enough to show him you got options that he ends up texting you first. However, this can turn be a turn off for some guys and if it goes too far then you might lose him. So exercise this step very cautiously and if you are not confident then don’t or you will just end up losing him.
Body Language
You know the phrase “Actions speaks louder than words”, well that is literally true when explaining body language. Sometimes even though you are interested in the guy, you may do something with your body that might push the guy away. Body language is an important part of our daily conversations and if mastered can be a great tool to get a guy to text you.
Even if you are saying the right things, but when you don’t actually believe in them, your body can give this away in an instant. So learn to control it and you will be able to use it to get the guy you want. Some of the examples of common body language errors when on dates are checking your mobile. Also, crossing your arms on your chest, putting your purse or some kind of blockade between the two of you etc. can create problems. This all sends the signal that you are not that interested even though you are. So learn to control it and get what you want.
Light Banter
Little flirting never hurt anyone. Banter is too important for any conversation as without it they are just statement made by two individuals. A little bit of teasing and sly flirting comment here and there is what makes you intriguing for him. This way if he enjoys the conversation he might want to do it again and again because he can’t get enough of them. So be open to flirtatious comments and don’t snap when he teases you a little instead tease him back a little.
Exchange Information
The goal of the first meeting is to get a date or at the very least exchange information to set a date. The best chance to achieve this goal is by leaving them wanting more. Basically what you are to do is hint at leaving when the conversation is at its peak and you guys are laughing.
This way he doesn’t get surprised you get up to leave at the first sign of conversation dying. And because talking to you has been so much fun he won’t actually like that you are leaving. However, he can’t say anything to stop as you hinted it before. What he can do is ask for your number and give his number so he can contact you later. This way your goal can be easily achieved. In case you want him to be the one to text you first then remember to give him the information.
Use Facebook to attract him
Nowadays, people are meeting online more then they meet in person. So it’s natural if a guy you met at the bar would contact you through social media. This is also true if you already know the guy and are talking terms with him. The way to get him to text you first using social media as a tool are as follows.
Be Online
This is the online equivalent of being approachable. As he can’t see you directly he may not know what your mood it but if you are online then he may assume that you are ready to chat otherwise you would have turned the settings off. Another thing you can do is share some fun post just after going online so he knows that you are in a good mood too.
Notice his Online Patterns
If you want him to text you first then you need to know his pattern to be available to him. The fact is if you two are never online at the same time then how would he be able to text you first or even text you. So by learning his online patterns, things that he likes and dislikes you learn about him. Then you can use this information to get more noticeable in his eyes by liking the same post he did or liking the post he shared. This way he will know that you exist and you will be that much close to getting that first text.
Ignore Him
This is just to remind him that he hasn’t text you yet. The things that you can do to make him feel ignored are talking to his friends and not him, at least not directly or share posts with his friends. Ignoring can also be accomplished by the absence of you like say if you have liked his post regularly and he had noticed that then the absence of those likes would also be noticed. Again this is just to remind him to text you and not to displease or be rude to him.
Share Posts
Sharing posts is normal and usual for you but now that you have learned about his likes and dislikes you can use this as a tool to get him to text you. You can start sharing post that you think he may like and that you like, thereby giving him ample opportunities to text you or comment on the post. Another great idea of post is to ask a question in your post so he has to comment just to answer the question and from there you can convert it into a chat.
Get Ready to Reply to His Texts
As we have spent so much time talking about his text, I think it’s necessary to spare a few words on how to reply this text. The thing is you don’t want this to be his first and last text. I know a lot of the websites says that you should not respond immediately and that’s right. However, what they also say is you have to make him wait three to five days to respond.
I don’t think that would work in this internet era and I highly doubt that it would’ve worked in telephone era, hand written letter era maybe. But in today’s world he can see you are online and if you don’t reply then he knows that you are ignoring him. Even then you have to make him wait at least a couple of hours before responding even to a facebook or other social network text and if it’s mobiles apps then make him wait for a day.
Lastly, I would just like to say that it would be really stupid to wait around for days to wait for his first text. You are a twenty first century woman for crying out loud. If you like a guy and he is online then surely you are confident enough to strike up a conversation if you want to. And if he takes that as you being too forward then leave him as you don’t want to be with a guy who thinks about a woman that way. So wait for some time and if after that you still don’t hear from him and if you really like the guy then my advice would be to go for it.